Groundbreaking Wedding Fashions
Fresh Insights for Your Big Day
Every bride hopes that her wedding goes off without a hitch, though sometimes the things that go wrong make the best memories. One thing that can’t go wrong this year is choosing wedding apparel, as styles for 2025 offer something for every bride’s taste. The beauty of wedding fashion is that it’s your choice to wear whatever you desire. You get to choose the dress that makes you feel the most confident and represents your individuality. This season, designers are offering everything from sweet, approachable styles for brides who want a simple look to bold high-fashion options to inspire the risk-taking bride.
With the popularity of Renaissance-era silhouettes, the Basque waistline has emerged as a flattering and versatile style that features two-piece dresses. The drop-waist corseted top works with a plethora of skirt styles. It also has a versatile post-wedding life, as it can be paired with pants or less formal skirts.
Speaking of corsetry, the Bridgerton trend continues to flourish with these throwback silhouettes. The corset trend is sensual and modern, and you can’t beat the convenience of being able to wear it more than once. Many brides love to change into something more danceable for the reception, and the corset offers the flexibility of switching to a shorter length skirt or even pants for the reception. Renaissance-inspired one-piece gowns are also the rage for vintage lovers. These gowns are so romantic and timeless, they can easily be passed down to another generation.
Perhaps you love the simple chic lines of a bias-cut satin gown. Making statements this season are asymmetrical necklines that combine a minimalist silhouette with a one-shoulder effect. This creates a flattering and romantic Roman vibe. Consider combining the simplicity of this silhouette with other on-trend embellishments to design your individual creation.
Even though florals may seem like something we have seen over and over, this season’s floral embellished gowns are more creative than ever. Designers have added three-dimensional appliqués of rosettes, flowers, and vines, making it seem like a garden party is sprouting from your dress. With floral embroidery or even painted-on florals, you will feel like you are a work of art.
Sheer fabrics have been in the forefront of fashion trends for several seasons, and they are a wonderful addition to wedding wear. With the see-through trend, you can go minimal or maximal. Sheer fabrics add a romantic feminine vibe, whether they appear as slightly see-through touches or as a retro-inspired lace-covered gown.
Once considered daring, color is now considered an innovative but mainstream bridal fashion. Collections offer not only the subtle shades of pink, lavender, silver, gold, and blue but also feature removable belting that can add a bolder pop of accent color. Black is an exciting new color for wedding dress embellishments and belts, along with black wedding dresses for edgy brides.
The world of convertible gowns has grown exponentially. Removable sleeves, detachable skirts, trains, or capes, along with bows and belts offer a bride multiple choices and give her the opportunity to change up or add color to her look for different bridal events.
Some brides have several wedding events planned and love to assemble a capsule collection bridal event wardrobe. This can include not only the wedding gown, reception dress, and rehearsal attire but also a getting-ready collection of pajamas, robes, loungewear, fuzzy slippers, and lingerie. This capsule collection can be anything from black-tie lavish to simply some of your favorite comfortable options.
The iconic wedding veil is also undergoing innovations that may make you decide to pull back a bit from tradition. The wedding veil plays a significant role in completing your bridal look. An ethereal flowing neck scarf that reaches the floor creates a dramatic cape-like effect. This adds a lovely touch and is easy to remove after the ceremony.
Gorgeous bridal headpieces are glammed up with pearls, stones, jewels, bows, and outright bling, making a very strong statement. These headpieces can have a detachable veil or no veil at all, depending on the bride’s preference.
Even a small wedding takes months of planning and expense, along with lots of work. Sometimes we can get caught up in all the details. No matter what you choose to wear, the most important thing to remember on your wedding day is to take it all in. From the perfect to the not-so-perfect moments, focus on your day in every way. Many brides say the day went by as a blur because they were worried about all the details. Take a breath…feel gratitude…and let your day of joy engulf you. There will be plenty of time to gaze at your dress in the photos later!
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Editor’s Note: Holly has been in the fashion industry for over 30 years as a buyer, boutique store owner, visual merchandiser, and fashion show producer. She is currently the owner of a modeling agency. Holly regularly appears on local TV doing fashion segments.
Fashion Worthy
By Holly Bell
Weekend Gourmet
Celebrating the New—Let’s Eat!
Holiday Breakfast French Toast Casserole
Bring 1 stick of butter, 3/4 cup of brown sugar, and 2 Tablespoons of corn syrup to a boil for 1-2 minutes, until the sugar dissolves. Pour into a 9x13-inch baking dish and spread around. Tear up a loaf of French, challah, or brioche bread and put the pieces in the baking dish on top of the syrup. In another bowl, combine 6 eggs with one and 1/2 cups of whole milk or Half and Half, 1 teaspoon of vanilla, 1 teaspoon of Grand Marnier (or orange juice), and 1/4 teaspoon of salt. Blend well and pour on top of the bread. Push the bread into the liquid and let it soak overnight in the fridge. Top with chopped pecans, if desired. In the morning, bake at 350 degrees for 40-45 minutes, until puffy and golden. Let set a few minutes before serving. Serves 8.
New Year’s Punch
Mix together 2 cups of orange juice, 2 cups of cranberry juice, 1 cup of pineapple juice, and 1 cup of ginger ale. (Vodka is optional.) Serve over ice with a sliced orange.
Spicy Marys
In a large stockpot, warm up 1 quart of tomato juice, 1/2 cup of fresh lemon juice, and 2 Tablespoons of prepared horseradish. Shut off the heat. Add several dashes each (to your taste) of Worcestershire sauce, Tabasco, and freshly ground black pepper. Let cool or refrigerate. Pour vodka into individual glasses and add the spicy juice, a celery stick, and a small sweet pickle.
Snow Day Slow Cooker Meal
Brown 2 pounds of brats or Italian sausage. Cut each link in half and place in a slow cooker. Add 1 cup of sliced onion, a small can of roasted red peppers, and a small can of sauerkraut. Cook on low for 4-6 hours. Serve with toasted hoagies or garlic bread.
Pretzel Bites
In a large bowl, mix 1 cup of creamy peanut butter with 3/4 cup of brown sugar, 2 Tablespoons of soft butter, and 1/2 cup of powdered sugar. Line 2 baking sheets with waxed paper or parchment paper. Roll a small amount of the peanut butter mixture into a ball and sandwich between 2 mini pretzel twists. Repeat until you run out of the peanut butter mixture, lining up the treats on the baking sheets as you go. Stick them in the freezer while you prepare the chocolate. Melt chocolate wafers or candies. Dip half of each pretzel sandwich into the melted chocolate. Place back on the waxed paper to set.
BBQ Dog Appetizers
Cut 3 or 4 packages of your favorite hot dogs into 2-inch chunks. In a large bowl, mix 1 cup of barbecue sauce, 2/3 cup of yellow mustard, 1 Tablespoon of paprika, 2 teaspoons of garlic powder, 2 teaspoons of onion powder, 1 teaspoon of black pepper, and 1/2 cup of brown sugar. Put the dogs on a lined sheet pan and pour the barbecue mixture on top. Cook at 300 degrees until heated. (You can also cook these in a slow cooker on low for 2 hours.)
Holiday French Dip Sammies
Brown a chunk of chuck roast for a few minutes, then place in a slow cooker. Add 1 sliced onion, 1/2 cup of beef broth, and a can of root beer or cola. Add salt and pepper to taste. Cook on low for 6-8 hours. Remove from cooker and slice thinly or use 2 forks to break the meat into pieces. Pour the juice into a bowl, platter the meat, and serve with toasted or warm rolls and condiments.
Corn Spaghetti
In a large bowl, mix 1 can of undrained whole kernel corn, 1 can of cream style corn, 1/2 cup of melted butter, 1 cup of cubed Velveeta cheese, and 1 cup of uncooked broken spaghetti noodles. Pour into a 9x13-inch baking dish. Bake at 350 degrees for 50-60 minutes.
Old-Fashioned Raspberry Jello
Mix 1 cup of boiling water with one 3-ounce package of raspberry gelatin. Add a 12-ounce bag of frozen raspberries. Stir until the fruit separates and the gelatin is dissolved. Stir in 1 cup of regular applesauce. Pour the mixture into a bowl and refrigerate for 1 hour, until set. Mix 1 cup of sour cream with 1 cup of mini marshmallows. When the Jello is set, spread the sour cream mixture on top. Refrigerate.
Zippy Clam Chowder
In a large soup pot, cook 6 strips of bacon. Remove and crumble, set aside. In the drippings, sauté 2 stalks of celery (chopped) and 1 large onion (chopped). Cook until tender. Add 1 clove of minced garlic and sauté for 1 minute. Add 2-3 small peeled and chopped potatoes, 1 cup of water, an 8-ounce bottle of clam juice, 3 teaspoons of chicken bouillon, and seasonings like pepper, Old Bay, paprika, and thyme. Bring to a boil, cover, and turn the heat down to simmer. Cook for 15-20 minutes, until potatoes are tender.
In a small bowl, combine 1/3 cup of flour with 1 and 1/2 cups of Half and Half. Slowly add to the broth, stirring until thickened (about 1-2 minutes). Add 2 cans of undrained chopped clams and another 1/2 cup of Half and Half. Heat for another minute. Before serving, garnish each bowl with chopped bacon.
Mint Chocolate Brownies
For the brownies: In a mixing bowl, combine 2 eggs, 1/2 cup of soft butter, and 1 cup of sugar; beat for 2 minutes. Add 2 ounces of melted unsweetened chocolate and blend. Add 1/2 cup of flour and blend just until moistened. Pour the mixture into a greased 9x9-inch baking pan. Bake at 350 degrees for 30 minutes. Cool slightly before spreading with frosting.
For the frosting: Mix 2 Tablespoons of butter, 1 Tablespoon of milk, 1 cup of sifted powdered sugar, 1 teaspoon of peppermint extract, and 3 or 4 drops of either red or green food coloring. Frost the brownies and chill until firm. Glaze with 1 square of melted unsweetened chocolate blended with 1 Tablespoon of butter. Chill. Cut and serve.
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Editor’s Note: Kate has been an Omaha area culinary instructor since 1997. She attended The Institute for the Culinary Arts at Metropolitan Community College in Omaha.
By Kate Beiting
Zodiac Forecast
Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)
Many people focus on introspection as we begin the new year in January, and Capricorns are no exception. Commit to the hard work it is going to take to achieve your personal and professional goals. Focus on deepening your emotional connections and intimacy with your loved ones. You will shine at work. Put yourself out there for everyone to see what you can achieve.
Aquarius (Jan. 20 – Feb. 19) This is a time to forge ahead and set intentions for your deepest aspirations. Be open to deeper intimacy with loved ones and don’t turn away from someone who challenges you to grow. Take on new projects at work that challenge you to showcase your unique talents and skills.
Pisces (Feb. 20 – March 21) Your year will begin with introspection and the release of old patterns and fears. You seek deeper connection with a loved one. This inner review also applies to your career. Assess your goals and make sure your career aligns with your authentic self.
Aries (Mar. 22 – Apr. 19) This month is about creating a platform for an incredible year ahead. At work, you will lay the groundwork for future success. In your personal life, seek out people who offer emotional stability.
Taurus (Apr. 20 – May 20) This is a great time to broaden your horizons. Ignite your personal exploration and growth through education. At work, you will be driven by achievement, ambition, and recognition.
Gemini (May 21 – Jun. 20) You are starting the year off right with energy that inspires you physically and intellectually. It is a period to focus on self-love and worth. You will have opportunities to expand at work, possibly taking on a new venture.
Cancer (June 21 – July 22) As you ring in the new year, be conscious of self-reflection that creates an inner awakening. Romantic encounters are intense. Take time to restore your soul through meditation and contemplative studies.
Leo (Jul. 23 – Aug. 22) This month, go with the flow and explore your curiosities. Your zest for life will be your guide! Couples should undertake activities that spark a shared sense of adventure. Work takes a back seat to personal life.
Virgo (Aug. – Sep. 22) In the new year, focus on self-care, organization, and improved work-life balance. Deepen your personal connections with shared activities and conversation. At work, you are drawn to efforts that showcase your creativity.
Libra (Sep. 23 – Oct. 22) Focus on creating a nurturing and supportive environment to deepen your emotional connection with loved ones. At work, January is a time of innovation, collaboration, and creative problem-solving. Your perspective will be valued.
Scorpio (Oct. 23 – Nov. 21) Shed that old skin and embrace the new you. You are starting a journey of intense self-discovery. Be ready to try things outside your comfort zone, personally and professionally.
Sagittarius (Nov. 22 – Dec. 21) Let go of past wounds to create space for new connections. You may feel a temporary setback at work, but persevere. Reassess your goals and motivations and look for new opportunities. Challenges will lead to healthy soul-searching.
A Woman's Work
Popular Wedding Traditions
Where Do They Come From?
Some of my most precious and unforgettable memories are of weddings of family and friends. The gorgeous dresses, the flowers, the music…so many beautiful things make up those enchanting days. A huge part of weddings are the many traditions that have developed over time to commemorate this event. But how did they come to be?
While not seeing your spouse-to-be until the ceremony starts is now a romanticized tradition, it once was considered a way to ensure that marrying off a daughter happened as planned. Marrying for love is a relatively new concept. Prior to the 18th century, marriage was primarily a means of cementing or improving a family’s social standing. Brides and grooms were often paired off without much of their own input, thanks to their families’ arrangements. Such marriages carried a high risk for cold feet. Keeping the bride and groom apart until the last minute reduced the chances of one party backing out before they made it to the altar.
The English rhyme which reads “something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue, and a silver sixpence in her shoe,” originated sometime during the mid 19th century. These objects were thought to bring a bride luck for her wedding day and also for her chances of becoming pregnant.
In modern times, the most traditional color for wedding dresses is white. Queen Victoria, who wore a lacy white gown at her 1840 wedding in place of the then-popular red, is often credited for popularizing white. Within a decade of Victoria’s wedding, dressmakers and etiquette books had run with the idea that a white dress represented the purity they deemed appropriate for brides.
The tradition of a bride carrying a bouquet began in ancient Greece and Rome. During that time, brides would hold bouquets of garlic, dill, and other herbs and spices to ward off evil spirits. Carrying a favorite flower variety is a tradition that became popular again with Queen Victoria. When she married Prince Albert, she carried a bouquet of snowdrops, his favorite flower.
Asking friends and family members to be part of the wedding party goes back to ancient times, as well. For Romans, having a bridal party was a legal means to an end, as Roman law required 10 male witnesses to vouch for the couple. The bride’s female companions would help her prepare and escort her to the ceremony. Bridesmaids in ancient Rome also served as decoys for the bride, to confuse evil spirts or would-be kidnappers.
The tradition of a wedding cake also comes from ancient Rome, where revelers broke a loaf of bread over a bride’s head for fertility’s sake. Tiered cakes came later and emerged from a game in which the bride and groom attempted to kiss over an ever-higher cake without knocking it over. The cake cutting used to be done by the bride only, to symbolize her virginity and future fertility. Nowadays, the couple participates in the cake cutting as a duo, which represents their setting up a home together and caring for each other.
Giving away the bride dates to a time of arranged marriages, when the “giving away” of the bride represented a transfer of ownership. Back then, young women were used as collateral and were given away in exchange for a “bride price” or dowry. Today, many brides are escorted down the aisle by one parent, both parents, or another special person.
While many couples now skip the infamous “speak now or forever hold your peace” line, it was once a standard question to prevent bigamy. Starting in the Middle Ages, Christian churches required upcoming weddings to be announced three Sundays in a row, allowing time for the news to spread. If the bride or groom was already married to someone else, word could get back to the priest, who would ask one last time during the ceremony to determine if the marriage could proceed.
The act of exchanging wedding rings during the ceremony is quite modern; historically, men did not wear wedding rings. While women have worn engagement and wedding rings for centuries, they were often gifted as a gesture of betrothal. It wasn’t until the 1940s that men’s wedding rings became socially acceptable. They came to be seen as a romantic link between married couples who were separated during World War II.
Hundreds of years ago, it was thought to be good luck to touch the bride…and even rip off a piece of her wedding dress. To avoid having her dress torn to shreds, the bride would toss her bouquet into the crowd to distract people while she made a break for her bridal chamber.
A wedding is a very special event with many traditions. Knowing their back stories makes participating in the traditions of such a memorable day even more special.
By Deborah Daley
Fresh Concepts
Fitness for Everyone
Get Fit in 2025!
What’s new in fitness this year? Wearable technology! Fitness trackers, smart watches, heart rate monitors, and other wearable devices can measure calories burned, heart rate, the amount of time you sit, the quality of your sleep, and more. This may sound like a lot of information, but feedback matters! When we know how we’re doing, we can adjust, modify, and reduce injury. Virtual reality workouts are also popular, as are social media–influenced fitness programs and mobile exercise apps. That said, you don’t need a lot of new tech to get fit and stay fit. No matter what your age and current fitness level, you can benefit from more exercise, so long as you do it safely.
Exercise for mental health isn’t new, but it rates high enough to remain a top trend in 2025. The American College of Sports Medicine (ACSM) says, “mental health continues to be a top fitness trend for the second year in a row, signaling a transformative shift in how we view fitness. Fitness is not just about building strength, power, and endurance—it’s also about fostering resilience for the mind.” In other words, your mental and physical health are inextricably connected. Most exercise encourages better sleep and helps relieve anxiety and depression.
Regular exercise improves overall health and longevity, reduces heart disease and chronic big hitters like diabetes and certain cancers, improves cognitive function, and often results in weight loss. Who doesn’t want better mobility and boosted energy? Let’s not forget about the added benefit of stronger bones!
Staying fit at any age is crucial, but we don’t all have the same goals. Baby boomers (born 1946-1964) are prioritizing fitness to stay flexible, strong, and balanced as they age. About 30 percent of the Gen X population (1965-1980) stays fit via gym memberships, relieving stress at the same time. Millennials (1981-1996) and Gen Z (1997-2012) lead the charge in connecting the mental and the physical in their workouts. What specific types of exercise spearhead us to healthy fitness levels? Read on for ideas!
The best workout is not the same for everyone. Understanding your limits (like finding your target heart rate zone) are vital to a healthier you. The American Heart Association recommends working at 50-85 percent of your maximum heart rate. Pay attention to your body and how you’re feeling. You can expect to breathe hard and feel tired, but watch for red flags like shooting pain, light-headedness, or cramping. Consider your age and ability, and modify an exercise if needed.
Low impact exercise is gentler on the joints. Low impact activities like walking, swimming, cycling, rowing, yoga, and Pilates effectively burn fat and get your heart pumping without jarring movements. Gym equipment like the elliptical machine is considered low impact, too. High impact involves running or jumping with greater impact on joints, muscles, and feet—think jumping jacks, squat jumps, tennis, skiing, or running on a treadmill.
There are many types of exercise to choose from. Traditional strength training (also called resistance training) is tried and true and is still in the top ten fitness trends. Resistance training builds muscle strength by working with resistance. Examples are push-ups, body squats, lifting weights, resistance bands, weight machines, or medicine balls. These improve bone density, joint function, muscle strength, and the flexibility of ligaments and tendons.
Aerobic exercise is the sweet spot for weight loss. Aim for four hours every week to reap benefits. Your heart will thank you, and so will your waistband! It’s okay to break up exercise into smaller sessions throughout the day. Go for a 20-minute walk on your lunch hour, then put in some time at the gym after work. Make it fun with group classes like kickboxing or spinning, or ask for the jump board in Pilates! Weight loss improves sleep, mood, mobility, and confidence. It lowers blood pressure and reduces risk of disease. Add strength training twice a week for shape, form, and function.
Group exercise fosters a sense of community at any age, and most gyms or group classes cater to diverse demographics. For example, a yoga class for seniors may involve chairs. A fitness bootcamp may be considerably more intense, designed for people with a higher base fitness level. Aquatic cardio or spin classes are low impact options for everyone, building cardiovascular strength and muscle. An extreme HIIT (High-Intensity Interval Training) class is for varying fitness levels, but be prepared to sweat! HIIT helps reduce blood sugar and improve insulin resistance. It also helps with weight loss because your body continues to burn calories up to 24 hours after your workout.
If you have medical conditions such as heart disease or joint conditions, talk to your physician about which exercises are best. Classes like Pilates, tai chi, Zumba, and yoga are healthy for all generations, but you need to know your limits. Degeneration of muscles, nerves, joints, and bones might limit capacity with certain exercises. Safety first! If in doubt, hire a personal trainer.
A personal trainer helps you find the proper form to execute an exercise without injury. You’ll get a better workout with a personalized plan tailored to your goals and limitations, and a trainer will whip you into shape with accountability and motivation. They’ll spot you on those deadlifts and set up the TRX (hanging straps to leverage body weight) for a fun but tough variation on exercise. A trainer is a professional workout partner!
If you’re struggling to up your fitness game, joining a fitness center can be half the battle. Walk into a gym and your choices are endless. Not only do they usually offer fitness classes at no extra charge, but they are a great place to get into a regular routine. Regular exercise helps avoid health issues and expensive bills or prescription medications. Don’t overlook the power of joining. Find a club with a pool, group classes, and trainers, and then get busy!
A bicycle ride on beautiful day is a healthy choice, but when the weather is bad, spinning is just as good! Many gyms and studios offer classes from 20 minutes to 90 minutes. Shoot for three to six classes a week. Benefits start at 75 minutes a week! It’s low impact, easy on joints, and a good choice for older adults. Your legs and core will benefit, but you’ll also improve blood flow, lose weight, lower blood pressure, and decrease your chances of diabetes, heart disease, and stroke.
Whether attending a class at the gym or at a standalone facility, yoga and Pilates often go hand in hand and sometimes are combined. Both are low impact, great stress relievers, and both improve flexibility, strength, and balance. However, there are important differences between these practices! Key differences include pace, focus, and equipment.
A yoga practice typically adopts a position and holds it (think downward dog) and then flows into different positions with great emphasis on breathwork and movement. Remember that yoga started as an ancient Indian discipline that incorporates spirituality and mindfulness. It’s not so much about getting into the posture; it’s about connecting mind and body. If you practice regularly, you’ll feel better from head to toe. There are multiple types of yoga—a great opportunity to ramp up your discipline by trying each one. You’ll end up with amazing benefits like less back pain, a healthier cardiovascular system, and a balanced frame of mind.
With Pilates, the focus on core strength and controlled movement at a faster pace builds strength and stamina. Walk into a session and you’ll likely see a row of machines called reformers with adjustable springs for varied tension in each exercise. Sprinkled around the room, you’ll often find other specially designed machines for various exercises. The goal is precision, so you can build your powerhouse core muscles with little room for injury. Mat Pilates requires no equipment, but it’s best to seek a licensed instructor to set proper body form before executing.
Pilates promotes better posture, which relieves muscle tension in day-to-day routines like hunching over a computer or phone, but your overall strength, balance, and confidence in moving will make it a pleasure to go to Pilates class!
Fitness is individual. New experiences give new perspective. There’s no need to compete with others. It’s your journey. If you want to take a beginner tap class in your 60s, do it. It will engage your mind, and you’ll get a great workout and have fun doing it. Whatever your choices, make fitness a habit toward good health and a happy life!
Sources for this article included: acsm.org, forbes.com, and healthline.com.
By Janette Calabro
Good Looks
Weight Loss
Battling the Bulge
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A healthy weight is a key component of good overall health. Being overweight can raise your risk for conditions like high blood pressure, diabetes, heart disease, stroke, and even certain cancers. It is also hard on joints and bones. As we age, our metabolism slows, decreasing the number of calories we can consume without gaining weight.
Calculating your body mass index, or BMI, is a decent starting point for determining your ideal weight. It’s an estimate of body fat based on your height and weight. (BMI calculators are readily available on the internet.) In general, a BMI between 18.5 and 24.9 indicates a healthy body weight. Age and gender can affect your results. Women tend to store more fat than men.
It’s important to avoid yo-yo dieting, or losing and gaining multiple times. When you lose weight, you lose both fat and muscle, but when the weight comes back on, fat builds up first. It’s also stressful, increasing the stress hormone cortisol, which makes you more likely to add belly fat. Yo-yo dieting is also associated with poor cardiovascular health and an increased risk of developing diabetes. It took time to gain that extra weight, and you should expect it to take some time to lose it, too.
Prescription weight-loss medications are available, but learning to manage eating habits is one of the best things we can do to achieve a healthy weight and maintain it for the long term. Nutrition counseling can be helpful. Your physician can recommend a registered dietician or a certified nutritionist to help you develop a personalized meal plan. Follow-up appointments track your progress to ensure long-term success.
Millions of Americans choose commercial weight loss programs like Jenny Craig, Nutrisystem, and Weight Watchers. Jenny Craig utilizes prepackaged low-calorie foods, in-person or phone support, and online tools to help you plan and track your meals. Reduced-fat dairy products and fresh fruits and vegetables are incorporated. The focus is on low-fat foods rich in fiber and protein. No food is completely off limits, including the occasional alcoholic beverage. No cooking is necessary at first. As you approach your weight loss goal, you start eating meals made at home. Once you reach your target weight, you transition to more home-cooked meals.
Nutrisystem also utilizes pre-packaged meals supplemented by personal grocery purchases. This is a high-protein weight loss plan based on the glycemic index and personal nutrition. By consuming at least 75 grams of protein daily, you keep blood sugar levels consistent in order to alleviate hunger and burn stubborn belly fat. Eating out is possible, but limited. Supplements and one-on-one weight loss coaching is included, as is a mobile app for support.
Weight Watchers is the granddaddy of weight loss programs, but it has certainly evolved over the years. There are no pre-packaged meals, and food consumption is based on a point system that guides members toward an eating pattern that is low in calories, saturated fat, and sugars, while focusing on high-protein foods. No food is off limits as long as you don’t exceed your daily points allowance, which is based on your sex, weight, height, and age. The plan includes “zero point” foods which can be consumed in unlimited quantities. Weekly meetings are available both in person and online.
The ketogenic (keto) diet is a low carb, high fat diet. It drastically reduces carbohydrate intake, replacing it with fat. This reduction in carbs puts your body into a metabolic state called ketosis. When this happens, your body becomes incredibly efficient at burning fat for energy. A keto diet can significantly reduce blood sugar levels. It also encourages your body to burn fat.
Some non-traditional approaches to weight loss include hypnosis and acupuncture. During hypnosis, a certified hypnotherapist places the body into a state of deep relaxation through language patterns and visualization. It utilizes the power of the mind to make healthy choices, eliminating emotional attachments to food and addressing the behaviors associated with weight gain. Multiple sessions result in the most favorable outcome.
Acupuncture is the traditional Chinese practice of stimulating specific points on the body by inserting very thin needles into the skin. It’s believed to stimulate energy flow, impacting metabolism, reducing appetite, and lowering stress. For optimal results, plan on multiple weekly treatments over a period of six to eight weeks. Consult your physician prior to treatment, and find a licensed acupuncturist.
Once you’ve achieved your weight loss goal, it’s important to keep those extra pounds at bay. Regular exercise is a great way to do that. Staying hydrated and getting enough sleep are also key. Find a buddy to keep you accountable. You don’t have to go it alone!
Sources for this article included: healthline.com, eatingwell.com, and webmd.com.
By Loretta McCollum
Income Outcome
Love Stories
Where Do We Learn About Love?
I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you.” —Roy Croft
When my two sisters and I were all teenagers, we loved going to the movies to watch love stories on the big screen. We would go and sob our eyes out. Looking back on it, none of these movies had happy endings. Love Story. Romeo and Juliet. The Way We Were. Rather, they were stories of star-crossed lovers…death, suicide, and divorce! Yikes!
“You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day, and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible.” —Bob Marley
So, why did we keep torturing ourselves with these visits to the theater? I think we did it to try and figure out what the heck true love really was. Our hormones were kicking in, and we’d already had our first crushes. My oldest sister even had a boyfriend. Why in the world we thought we could learn about real love from Hollywood is beyond me.
“The first duty of love is to listen.” —Paul Tillich
Since my marriage to my husband, Manny, I work every day to learn more about love. We have been married for five years, and we strive to make progress every day, with our own growth and with our love for one another.
“Love isn’t something natural. Rather, it requires discipline, concentration, patience, faith, and the overcoming of narcissism. It isn’t a feeling; it is a practice.” —Eric Fromm
I have not learned about healthy love from Hollywood. I’m learning about healthy love with my husband. Manny and I talk with one another about our relationship every single day. Mutual respect is our goal. We want to make certain that we are not assuming what the other thinks or feels. Neither one of us is a mind reader, so we have found that it’s vital to share what we are feeling and thinking. Communication is the building block that we use to keep getting better and stronger.
“Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get, only with what you are expecting to give—which is everything.” —Katharine Hepburn
Giving all of ourselves to our spouse with an open heart, with the goal of growing and trusting one another, is the foundation of a true, healthy love. Love, trust, mutual respect…now, THAT is a love story!
“Who we marry is one of the most important decisions in life, one that will influence the level of happiness, growth, and success like no other choice.” —Nathan Workman
By Janet Van deWalle
Kids Comments
A New Year
A Few Changes
The New Year seems like the perfect time to make changes. But we’ve all tried making New Years resolutions, generally related to some kind of change, and they don’t usually last very long. There must be a better way!
How about making the ideas of change family-oriented? Have a family meeting to discuss what each one of you hopes to accomplish this year. (It would probably be a good idea to set up your meeting about a week in advance, to give everyone a chance to do some thinking.) Age shouldn’t be a major consideration. Take turns presenting your desires. Nothing should be discounted, but some things may have to be delayed. Wishing and dreaming are okay. The family may even brainstorm to find an answer or form a support system.
Parents may want to get the family more organized. Most families have so many activities and obligations that they seem to be going several different ways at the same time. Knowing what type of commitment is coming up by person, time, and date eases a lot of confusion. Carpools or sitters can be arranged as needed. A Master Calendar might help. It could be a white board with colors, columns, or areas for each family member.
I know couples who each keep their own calendar but have a Master Calendar so their commitments don’t conflict. It comes in handy when planning a family or date night, too. It’s okay if the older kids want to keep their own calendars, but only if they coordinate with the Master Calendar. It’s called being considerate.
Depending on age, the kids’ desires may be more complicated than scheduling. Older kids might want to update…and even privatize…their study area. Once in high school or college, they need a place where they can study in relative quiet and leave materials on the desk without having them used by the younger kids for paper airplanes or doodling. If there isn’t room in each child’s bedroom for a study area, it might be possible to equip an area in another part of the house with appropriate lighting and a table. Each child could have their own shelf or container for their personal study gear.
Once family members get used to open meetings where discussions are held without judgment, other topics might be approached. All kids have hopes for the future (going pro or becoming an astronaut), conflicts they must solve (stop the bullying), or situations where they need help or advice. It doesn’t always have to be the older family members giving advice. The younger ones also have ideas! Nothing is out of the realm of possibility. Talking with…and listening to…the kids when they are young starts a habit of open communication. What a great change!
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Editor’s Note: Marge has three children, two grandchildren, and numerous nieces and nephews. She holds advanced degrees in education. Her life’s mission is to teach everyone that kids are people, too.
By Marge Shoemaker, BS, MS
Interiors By Design
Chase Away the Cold Weather Blues
Cozy Up to a New Fireplace
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As winter settles in and temperatures dip, it’s time to head indoors! Imagine arriving home on a cold winter’s day to the sight of flickering flames and the sound of a crackling fire. Instant warmth and relaxation! If the chilly weather has you craving cozy comfort, you’re not alone. Now is the perfect time to add a fireplace to your home.
Gathering around the fire has been a mainstay of human comfort since we lived in caves. Fortunately, we’ve come a long way since then, and there are fireplace options to suit every style. A fireplace instantly transforms a room, creating a warm, inviting atmosphere and a natural focal point.
While investing in a fireplace provides warmth and comfort on the chilliest of days, it also adds value to your home and saves money on heating bills. Offering energy efficiency and sustainability, fireplaces rank as one of the most sought after amenities by current homeowners. According to Redfin, homes with a fireplace were listed for 13 percent more than the national median price.
When it comes to interior design, adding a fireplace is a lot of fun. Whether your style is traditional, transitional, or contemporary, it has never been easier to insert a pop of personality! You can choose a specific functionality, such as remote control, smartphone capability, or adjustable flame height. If you’re in the market for something a little different, you’re in luck! Many fireplaces break from tradition to offer innovative design concepts, such as space-saving vertical fireplaces suitable for spaces where a traditional design won’t work.
Many older homes have the original fireplace. These fireplaces are often not safe to operate and may appear dated. Fortunately, there are ways to make an older fireplace seem new again.
Fireplace inserts are the perfect solution for remodeling an older fireplace. Inserts are available in wood, gas, or electric and are the ideal way to refresh an existing hearth. Easy to install and operate, inserts have become an increasingly popular option. Tuckpointing is a process that restores and maintains the structural integrity of a masonry chimney. Worn-out mortar is removed and replaced to prevent brick and stone from loosening and falling.
Refacing an original fireplace can take it from dull and dated to a modern masterpiece. A masonry contractor can remove the original facing and replace it with a design of your choosing. For example, in homes with high ceilings, a floor-to-ceiling fireplace overlaid with stone offers a dramatic and breathtaking focal point.
A dual-sided fireplace adds an especially beautiful aesthetic to a space and is the perfect way to join two of your favorite rooms. Indoor/outdoor fireplaces make a design statement and provide a seamless transition between your indoor and outdoor living spaces. With double the pleasure gained from one fireplace, it’s no surprise that double-sided fireplaces are becoming one of the top trending fireplaces.
While gas and electric are great options, wood-burning fireplaces are still hot! If you simply love the sound of a crackling fire and the scent of wood smoke, you can choose from the many wood-burning fireplaces available. Incorporating wood storage into a design plan adds earthy texture and cozy warm tones to your space.
Ventless fireplaces offer a safe and elegant alternative to traditional fireplaces, adding warmth and ambience to any space. Since there’s no venting, chimney, gas, or electricity required, they can be installed virtually anywhere. Ventless or vent-free fireplaces are engineered to burn at nearly 100 percent efficiency, allowing all the heat that’s produced to stay within your home.
Nothing lends magic to outdoor living spaces like a crackling fire. Create an inviting hearth where friends and family can gather to relax and enjoy the outdoor lifestyle even in the coldest weather season, and make your money back, too. A National Association of Realtors study revealed that fire pits net a whopping 67 percent return on investment. One big trend this year is a rustic-style, gas fire pit made of natural materials such as stone. They turn on and off with the touch of a button.
No matter what type or style of fireplace you choose, it should be professionally inspected and cleaned on an annual basis. The company that installed or repaired your fireplace may also offer these services; if not, they can direct you to a certified chimney sweep.
Studies indicate that watching a fire can lower blood pressure, heart rate, and cortisol levels, contributing to an overall sense of calm and well-being. So whether you’re curled up with a good book or enjoying a lively evening with your loved ones, a fireplace makes for a more enjoyable winter and a healthier life.
Sources for this article included: csia.org, consumerreports.org, and thisoldhouse.com.
By Robyn V. Powell
Home Works
Remodel Your Home
What Goes Into a Home Reno?
What better way to start the new year than with some home renovations to support your New Year’s goals? A new home gym could help you “exercise more” in 2025; a dining room face lift could keep you excited to “be more social.” Whatever you want to improve, remember that home renovation requires more than just a room and a general design idea. It requires meticulous planning.
Naturally, your first step in any home remodel is to create a plan. What room or rooms are you planning to renovate? Do you want to remodel the whole house? Will your renovations be affecting any structural elements of your house? Do you plan to live in the house while it’s being renovated? Having a detailed plan on what needs to be done and when to complete your remodel is vital to keeping your project on target and on budget.
Speaking of budget, you’ll want to have at least a ballpark budget in mind before you hire anyone. Generally speaking, finance experts say that a home remodel should cost between five and 15 percent of your home’s total value. With that range in mind, you’ll want to decide how much you want to spend, and line up any financing you need.
Consider hiring a professional to plan out your remodel for you. Hiring an architect can be an great idea if your remodel includes structural alterations or additions. Architects have years of education and in-depth knowledge of the local codes and regulations your project will need to meet. Interior designers can customize design solutions to the space you have available. They can also connect you to a network of reliable contractors and suppliers that they’ve worked with before.
If you’re looking to do a more surface-level remodel, hiring an interior decorator may be more appropriate. They specialize in the aesthetic changes rather than the structural. They should also have a list of industry contacts that can help you get the job done.
No matter who plans your renovation, you will still need to hire a contractor to run it. Start with professional or personal recommendations, and look up your prospects on the Contractors State License Board. From there, you can see how other homeowners have rated contractors in your area.
Once you’ve gotten two to three estimates, do some pre-screening before you choose who to hire. Don’t be afraid to ask each contractor for former client references, especially if you weren’t able to find any online. Find out whether or not they’ll be able to meet your desired timeline. You’ll also want to make sure any contractor you hire is bonded (to protect you in case the contractor fails to complete your contract) and insured (to protect both you and them from accident liability).
Another question you should ask contractors is whether they have their own employees or if they hire subcontractors. When contractors have their own employees, it usually means they have reliable help and that the labor cost and timeline you are quoted will remain static. Many contractors do have subcontractors they work with regularly, even though they are not employees. Subcontractors can do great work, but their cost and availability may fluctuate with changes in the labor market.
Next, you’ll want to start talking about how long the project will take. Generally speaking, a single room remodel should take a month or two at most. An addition or exterior remodel will take two to four months, and a whole house renovation can last up to half a year.
If you choose to live in your home through the remodel, this will increase the overall time of your project. To avoid getting in the way of your contractors, move food, supplies, or sleeping quarters out of areas that are under construction. The other option, of course, is to plan for an extended stay away from home during the renovation.
Making sure all supplies are ordered and permits obtained before you start construction is essential to keeping your timeline on track. If you’re unsure whether you need a permit for your project, you can check with your local municipality, but most projects will need one. Your contractor will likely obtain the permits for your project, but it doesn’t hurt to check yourself.
Whether you prefer to be hands-on or completely hands-off with your renovation project, it’s important to know what goes into your remodel plan. Setting expectations, understanding potential setbacks, and hiring the right team is what will keep your successful home renovation from turning into a construction nightmare!
Sources for this article included: buildertrend.com, thisoldhouse.com, and zen.homesada.com.
By Anne Yankus
To Your Good Health
Understanding Glaucoma
What Everyone Should Know
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As you age, keeping your eyes healthy is just as important as keeping your heart or joints healthy. Yet, many people are unaware that we can take steps to maintain eye health. One thing we can do is understand the symptoms and prognosis of glaucoma, a serious eye disease that can affect our eyesight. It’s not easy to spot the symptoms, so it’s very important to know what to watch for!
Glaucoma is a condition that leads to increased pressure inside the eye, which can damage the optic nerve. The optic nerve carries visual information from the retina to the brain. Over time, the pressure can harm the nerve so much that it causes vision problems and, in severe cases, leads to blindness. It is a serious issue and is the second leading cause of blindness worldwide.
What makes glaucoma particularly challenging is that it often progresses gradually, with no early warning signs until vision loss becomes noticeable. Half of the approximately three million Americans with glaucoma do not know they have it.
Signs of glaucoma can include blurred vision, halos around lights, difficulty seeing in low light, tunnel vision, and, in some cases, nausea and vomiting. Other symptoms can include eye pain or pressure, headache, red or bloodshot eyes, gradually developing blind spots, or double vision.
While anyone can develop glaucoma, certain groups are at higher risk. These groups include adults older than 40 years, people with a family history of glaucoma, and people who are of African, Latino, or Asian heritage. People with diabetes, migraines, or high blood pressure may also be at higher risk for developing glaucoma. People who are farsighted or nearsighted, have had an eye injury or eye surgery, or take corticosteroid medications are also at risk.
The American Academy of Ophthalmology recommends regular eye exams to catch glaucoma early. If you’re under 40 and at low risk, an exam every 5 years is sufficient. If you have risk factors for glaucoma, more frequent exams are advised: every 2 to 5 years if you’re younger than 40, every 1 to 3 years from age 40 to 54, and every 1 to 2 years for those older than 55. Depending on your overall eye health or need for corrective lenses, your doctor may recommend even more frequent checkups.
Receiving a glaucoma diagnosis can be overwhelming and concerning, but there’s good news: most types of glaucoma can be managed, especially when caught early. Proper care and consistent monitoring can slow the progression of the disease and help protect your vision.
The two most common types of glaucoma are open-angle and angle-closure. Open-angle glaucoma develops slowly, as the eye’s drainage system struggles to keep up, gradually increasing pressure. Angle-closure glaucoma occurs suddenly, when the iris blocks the eye’s drainage channels, causing a rapid spike in pressure. This is an emergency that requires immediate attention. Other types of glaucoma, like normal-tension glaucoma or childhood glaucoma, are less common but no less significant.
No matter the type, early diagnosis is crucial for effective treatment. If glaucoma is suspected, your eye doctor will perform a series of tests, including checking eye pressure, assessing your optic nerve, testing your visual field, and examining corneal thickness and drainage angles. These tests are painless and provide valuable information about your eye health. While glaucoma damage can’t be reversed, treatments can help manage the condition and prevent further vision loss.
Treatment focuses on reducing intraocular pressure and might include prescription eye drops, oral medications, laser treatments, or surgery. Eye drops are often the first line of treatment. They are easy to use, but they require consistency to be effective. Laser treatments and surgery may be recommended if medication isn’t enough to control the pressure. With today’s medical advances, many patients experience excellent outcomes and maintain their quality of life.
The most qualified professional to treat glaucoma is an ophthalmologist—that is, a medical doctor who specializes in eye care and surgery. In some cases, optometrists may co-manage treatment, especially when monitoring and medication are involved. For complex cases, a glaucoma specialist with advanced training may be needed.
Your vision is central to your daily life, from navigating the world to cherishing special moments. Regular eye exams are an investment not just in your vision but also in your independence and quality of life. Protecting your eyesight protects your ability to enjoy hobbies like reading, traveling, or spending time with loved ones. By taking proactive steps and following your doctor’s recommendations, you can safeguard your eyesight. Don’t wait—prioritize your eye health today.
Sources for this article included: my.clevelandclinic.org, mayoclinic.org, cdc.gov, and aao.org.
By Leslie Byrne
Focus On Finance
Goldilocks and the Three Index Funds
Finding What’s Just Right
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Over 70 million Americans have invested a total of 12 trillion dollars in index funds. An index fund is a mutual fund that passively replicates the movement of a specific market index. There are 73,054 index funds available to the investing public; 4,375 of these mimic one of the three major indexes—the Dow, the S&P 500, and the Nasdaq. The critical element in deciding which, if any, of these funds is appropriate for you, is an understanding of the index that the fund tracks.
Charles Dow began his journalism career by writing an afternoon newsletter documenting his observations about the day’s market activities. It didn’t take him long to figure out that investors needed a more subjective and empirical analysis of the market. In 1897, he created the first stock market index to fill that void.
The Dow’s index initial contained 12 railroad stocks. Today, the index has grown to 30 large, diverse, publicly traded companies. The components of the Dow are selected by a committee and adjusted periodically to reflect the evolving macro economy. Thirty years ago, Kodak and American Tobacco were components of the Dow. They have been replaced by Apple and Amazon. The Dow is weighted by its individual stock prices, making it unique among the regular indexes. The downside to this approach is that a relatively small company with a hefty stock price can exert a disproportionate influence over the index.
Prior to World War II, less than one percent of the American public owned stocks. The economic boom that followed World War II increased that number to over 10 percent. With the increase in stock market participation came a need for an index with a broader scope than just the 30 stocks in the Dow. So, in 1956, Standard and Poor’s introduced the S&P 500.
As the name implies, the S&P 500 consists of 500 of the largest companies in America and represents about 85 percent of the total value of the stock market. It differs from the Dow in that its components are weighted by market cap, which is the price of the stock times the number of shares outstanding. This is significant because the top 10 companies in the S&P 500 represent 27 percent of the index’s weighting and they strongly influence its movement.
In the early 1970s, 260 broker-dealers banded together to create the country’s first electronic stock exchange, known by its acronym: Nasdaq. The exchange’s electronic nature was significant because it bypassed the New York Stock Exchange and its inefficient human specialist infrastructure. Initially, only stocks not traded on the NYSE were traded on the Nasdaq system.
By the late 1980s, the number of Nasdaq stocks exceeded 1,700. It became evident that the there needed to be an index that encompassed more than just the 500 S&P stocks, and the Nasdaq index was created to fill the void. It is often said that the Nasdaq is a technology-driven index. It does include tech behemoths such as Apple and Nvidia, but the top 10 also includes Amazon, Broadcom, Costco, and Tesla.
Investing is not a one-size-fits-all proposition, and this is where the parallel to Goldilocks’ conundrum comes into play. Each individual investor brings to the table a different level of assets, a different stage in their life journey, a different objective, and a different temperament. So how to determine which index is “just right” for them?
All three of the major indexes tend to move in sync; the difference is in the magnitude of the movement. Using the Goldilocks analogy, the Dow would be a little bit on the “too cold” side. It lags the market going up and likewise lags the market going down, thus it is best suited for investors who are conservative and slightly risk-averse.
For most investors, the Nasdaq index falls into Goldilocks’ “too hot” category. Because of its broader composition, the Nasdaq index tends to move up further and more rapidly than the other two major indexes. When the market drops, it declines further and more rapidly.
Finally, we have come to Goldilocks’ “just right” selection, which, for many investors, is the S&P 500. It is the benchmark by which the broad market is measured. It is diverse enough to have significant downside protection but also to enjoy the fruits of the enormous American economic engine.
Investors seeking the index fund that is “just right” for them don’t need to emulate Goldilocks and sample each one. Instead, they should begin their quest by assessing their goals, resources, and temperament. Once they have completed their self-assessment, the appropriate selection will reveal itself.
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Editor’s Note: George Morgan has five decades’ experience in all phases of the investment process. He is currently the Founder and Principal of Morgan Investor Education. His website is morganinvestoreducation.com.
The opinions voiced in this material are for general information only and are not intended to provide specific advice or recommendations for any individual. To determine which investments may be appropriate for you, consult your financial advisor prior to investing.
By George Morgan
Seasons of Life
Assisted Living Options
Independence and Support
When an elder loved one wishes to retain a fair amount of independence but needs some help with daily tasks, an assisted living arrangement may be an ideal solution. An assisted living facility offers safety and support with a high degree of independence for people who can no longer live at home alone safely but don’t need 24/7 medical attention.
Help with bathing and dressing are generally offered, plus prepared meals, housekeeping, laundry, and medication management. Planned events and outings provide important social engagement. Transportation is often provided, along with other amenities, to ensure a high degree of autonomy.
An assisted living facility might stand alone or be part of a larger senior living community. They typically provide outdoor spaces for residents to enjoy in pleasant weather. Except for those in memory care, residents are free to come and go as they wish. Private apartments often feature small kitchens for those who still enjoy cooking. Buffet or restaurant style dining is also available.
Some assisted living facilities are part of a senior community that offers a continuum of care. These communities have different living arrangements and levels of care on a single campus. Should a resident develop a need for a higher level of care, either temporarily or permanently, there is no need to move to a different location.
Senior living experts say it is best to consider alternative living situations before a crisis occurs. Much better to take one’s time, explore the options, and tour facilities. I visited one recently and loved the large outdoor courtyard, fitness center, movie theater, and café dining. Shopping, a city park, and banking are nearby. There is an on-site salon, and pets are welcome. Apartments offer Wi-Fi and cable TV. Organized trips, art and crafting classes, and the large library all appealed to me.
Amenities vary, so look for one whose offerings match your (or your loved one’s) interests and needs. Some facilities offer a swimming pool or hot tub. Is a garage needed? Transportation to entertainment venues, medical clinics, or shopping may be desirable. What about billiards or a woodworking shop?
When family or friends visit, private dining and overnight accommodations may be available. When a friend in our bridge group moved to assisted living following surgery, we were allowed to use one of their meeting rooms for our monthly bridge night. It was a great solution to keep her active in our group when mobility issues made it difficult for her to visit our homes.
Most assisted living facilities offer distinct levels of care based on residents’ needs. For example: Level 1 needs minimal supervision for activities of daily living (personal hygiene, dressing, eating, maintaining continence, and mobility). Level 2 calls for hands-on assistance with one activity of daily living. Level 3 requires hands-on assistance with more than one activity of daily living (or needs more than one caregiver). Individual facilities may define their own levels.
Senior living administrators are keenly aware that social interactions are crucial to health and happiness. Social engagement enhances not only mental and physical health but also important cognitive functioning. Isolation can result in anxiety and depression, so planned activities are a high priority.
If scouting facilities in your area is not feasible, consider a service that assists in finding the right arrangement for your loved one. These professionals know all the local facilities and typically do not charge potential residents for their services. They are paid by the facility rather than the person looking to move, and finding the best match is their goal. Save valuable time and take advantage of their expertise.
Safety and security are always prominent concerns. Most facilities have emergency alert systems such as pendants worn by residents. Staffing ratios (that is, the ratio of caregivers to residents) are important and may be regulated by the state. However, staff experience, quality of care, and cost may be equally valuable considerations.
Medicare does not typically pay for assisted living. Check with your insurance provider if you have private long-term care coverage. Other sources of income might include retirement income, savings, or home equity. Wartime veterans and spouses may be eligible for assistance, and some facilities focus specifically on caring for veterans.
A senior housing service can assist with navigating costs and contracts. While some facilities charge only on a monthly basis, others require a large entrance fee along with separate fees for services. The level of care will affect the cost. Even though the upfront fee may be large, some plans ensure care for life, regardless of the level of care that may be needed in the future. Assisted living could be the right answer for your independent senior!
Sources for this article included: health.usnews.com, seniorhomeseeker.com, medicare.gov, and assistedliving.com.
By Linda Barnes
Peak Performance
Clutter Breeds Chaos
Declutter, Organize, Live Better
In the 21st century, we don’t remember Benjamin Franklin for his wise words about decluttering, but maybe we should. He said, “For every minute spent in organizing, an hour is earned,” and I believe truer words were never spoken. Constant clutter and disorganization can drain your energy and contribute to unwarranted stress, frustration, and anxiety. In a professional setting, it can lead to lack of productivity and loss of revenue. When there’s a place for everything and everything is in its place (wise words but not from Ben Franklin, as far as we know), we feel better physically and emotionally. But to get there, we have to cut through the clutter, and that requires thought and planning.
The Glad brand has a lot of wisdom to offer on the topic of decluttering (they, of course, also think they make the best storage containers for the job). They recommend putting your clutter into four categories: trash, donate/sell, store, and put away.
The trash category includes broken items or things that you want to get rid of that aren’t worth donating or selling. The donate/sell category includes things are still in okay condition but that your household could do without, like books, toys, and clothing. Give to friends, donate to charity, or sell at a garage sale. The storage category is for items you want to keep but don’t use every day, like holiday decorations. (Don’t forget to label the box before you put it in the attic or garage!) Finally, the put away category is for things you need that aren’t in the right place in your home. Consider subdividing this box into smaller ones for which room the item goes to.
Decluttering is a process, so don’t expect to do it all in one day. If you start with small chunks, your success will motivate you to tackle something larger. Set a timer for a certain number of minutes (say, 15) and declutter only what you can in that amount of time. Or consider starting with a small space. Before you attack your bedroom closets, maybe organize your spice rack.
Family heirlooms can be difficult to part with. Tackle them at the beginning of the day when you have the emotional and physical energy to make decisions. If family heirlooms are taking up too much room in your home, reduce your load by passing some on to the next generation. After all, that’s what makes them family heirlooms! If the items are no longer wanted, passing them on to other people who could use them now may feel like a better tribute than keeping them in storage just for the sake of hanging onto them.
When it comes to photos, you can really keep them all if you keep them digitally. If you don’t have time or your own scanner, you can hire a digitization service to preserve everything for you. Of course, your favorites can be displayed, but be prudent in the number that you showcase.
Some people enjoy the act of organizing more than others. If you’ve tried to set up an organizing system on your own and can’t seem to make it stick, ask for help! Start by checking in with family and friends whose homes are well-organized—they may not have done it all on their own! If you can’t find a personal recommendation, check out the directory of the National Association of Productivity and Organizational Professionals (NAPO) to find a professional organizer.
They will offer support for decision-making, facilitate actions around removal of unwanted belongings, and set up systems that help their clients establish order and clarity. They also work with clients to determine what the functions of their spaces should be and help set up those spaces in ways that can be easily maintained.
To support the organization of various spaces in your house, many companies offer everything from storage units to drawer organizers to hanging units to display pots and pans. The key is to only have what is essential in the room and to know how living or work flows in that room.
Once you have done organizational planning, reach out to a custom storage solution company. These businesses come to your home, talk to you about your wants and needs, and take measurements so they can create storage solutions that make the most of your space. Closet organization systems, self-contained kitchen pantry units, and garage storage systems can all be customized to your space and your stuff.
Organizing your home can make all the difference in your productivity and your mental health. Get started on your decluttering and then enlist the organizational help that will whip your home or workspace into shape. You’ll be glad you did!
Sources for this article included: napo.net, aarp.org, and glad.com.
By Deborah Daley
Auto Wise
Battery Health
Is Your Battery Healthy?
We are well into winter, and what is the one thing in our cars that has a nasty habit of giving us trouble? Yes, you got it…the battery. The battery is not very glamorous, but it is a necessary element to your car. Every driver needs to know about this thing that keeps an automobile running, because when it dies, it can leave us stranded.
Let’s see if we can dissect a battery and how it works. A car battery does not have enough energy storage to run all the electrical components of your vehicle for too long. It needs to be recharged! Fortunately, it is recharged every time you drive your car. Interesting processes are going on under your hood! Connected to the engine is a component called an alternator. That alternator is rotated by the engine. As it rotates, its motion generates electricity. This electricity is fed back into the battery to recharge it.
However, your battery isn’t really storing electricity; it is storing chemical energy. I bring this to your attention because this distinction relates to how batteries perform in different types of weather. Lowering temperatures cause chemical reactions to proceed more slowly. If a battery is used at a low temperature, it produces less current than it does at higher temperatures. If a cold battery continues to wear down, it will reach a point where it cannot deliver enough current to keep up. Likewise, excessive heat cases battery fluid to evaporate. If it evaporates too much, it could damage the battery.
To protect your battery, you should clean the terminals with a mixture of baking soda and water applied very gently with a wire brush to remove any corrosion on the terminals. A thin layer of petroleum jelly can help prevent further corrosion. If you are hesitant to do this, a mechanic will be happy to show you how.
If you find yourself with a dead battery, you can temporarily jump-start it. (Important caveat: If the battery is cracked or visibly leaking, do not attempt to jump-start it.) In order to jump-start a car correctly, you will need a good set of jumper cables and another car with a well-functioning battery. Shut off both vehicles.
Attach one of the red clips to the positive terminal of the dead battery and attach the other red clip to the positive terminal of the booster battery. Attach one of the black clips to the negative terminal of the booster battery. Then attach the last black clip to an unpainted metal surface on the car with the dead battery. Make sure to choose a spot that isn’t near the battery! Start the booster car, and then try to start the vehicle with the dead battery. Upon starting, do not shut the engine off right away. Unhook the cables in reverse order and drive around for a good 15 minutes to give the alternator enough time to recharge the battery.
A conventional battery can last five years in milder climates, but they will only last three to four years in most areas of the United States. If you want to extend your battery life, try to minimize exposure to extremely high temperatures when the vehicle is parked. Seek out the shade!
Today’s EVs use lithium batteries. Car manufacturers claim you can get 100,000 to 200,000 miles out of an EV battery. In order to keep a lithium battery healthy, you should never drain it down to zero percent before recharging. A lithium battery will last longer if it has a continued charge of 30 to 80 percent. However, experts warn that an EV battery will deteriorate faster if the charger is used constantly. They advise not plugging it in when you don’t have to.
Remember how cold temperatures drain a conventional battery faster? They do the same thing to EV batteries. That means that the range of an EV battery is going to be lower in the colder months. You can still drive your EV in the winter; you just need to leave yourself a wider margin before you run out of charge.
In theory, most EV owners charge their vehicles at home, in their own garages. If you’re just driving around town, that will be sufficient. But when you’re on a road trip, you’ll need to be able to stop and recharge. EV charging stations are more readily available than they were a few years ago, but it’s still important to plan your route ahead of time. Apps like PlugShare, EV Navigation, and EVgo can help you find charging stations on the road.
Take good care of your vehicle’s battery, and it will take good care of you!
Sources for this article included: plugshare.com, consumerreports.org, and afdc.energy.gov.
By Linda Sutherland
The Good Life
Wedding Planning
Get Ready for Your Special Day
Did you know that December is the most popular month to get engaged? If you or a loved one became engaged this holiday season, congratulations! After overcoming the initial excitement, you may wonder how to begin planning a wedding. There’s no denying that it’s a complicated process, but there are ways to make the process more manageable and enjoyable.
How much time will you need? According to Wedding Wire, the average engagement lasts 13 months. However, choosing the best date for your wedding depends on what is most important to you. If you get engaged in December and want to marry in June, you’ll have either six or 18 months to work with. If you have your heart set on a popular venue, you may well need to book a year in advance. On the other hand, if you’re happy to get married on a Friday or a Sunday, your venue might have availability on considerably shorter notice.
Establishing a wedding budget should be your first step. By setting a budget up front, you create realistic expectations about your special day. Identify your priorities and decide how much you will spend for each item. Wedding budget spreadsheet templates are available online to help you estimate expenses and track actual spending.
Up next, create a guest list. Keep in mind that food and beverages are customarily the largest expenses of a wedding, so the size of the guest list significantly impacts the cost. When making your guest list, consider the size of your budget and your desired venue.
How do you select a venue? Think about your theme, formality, and size of your guest list. Make a list of must-have items that are non-negotiable. Ask how the venue handles catering. Ask about a curfew and music-level constraints. Inquire if the fee is all-inclusive or whether you must rent items. How much time do they provide for setup and tear down? Make sure there is enough power for a DJ or band. How is the lighting? Ask about valet service and security costs. Ensure there are adequate restroom facilities.
If the venue does not provide catering, the following are some questions to ask potential caterers. Are they available on your desired date? What type of experience do they have, and how many weddings do they cater each year? Ask if they have ever catered at your venue. Ask if they specialize in a specific type of cuisine and if they provide plated, buffet, family-style, or cocktail-style meal service. Inquire about the cost and find out what is included in their package.
Ask to see sample menus or photos and arrange for a menu tasting. Are their menus customizable? Can they handle dietary restrictions? Do they provide alcohol? Do they provide the wedding cake? Make sure they are licensed and carry liability insurance. Ask if they provide dinnerware and tableware. Ask about additional fees and make sure you understand their cancellation policy.
If your desired venue or caterer is not all-inclusive, you can rent needed items from party rental companies. These companies rent tents, tables and chairs, linens and napkins, dinnerware, flatware, and glassware. They also rent arches, dance floors, electrical generators, floral accessories, table accessories, and lounge furniture.
When selecting flowers, seasonality, design, and desired colors will play a role in the cost. Plan to spend more money if you want over-the-top arrangements or flowers that are out of season. Before visiting with potential florists, figure out what you like. Do you prefer simple, classic, or bold arrangements? Get recommendations from family and friends. When you meet with florists, ask to see photos of their previous work. Find out whether they can meet your needs within your budget.
Is live music a priority, or do you just want guests to have a good time on the dance floor? Your budget may influence your decision. Bands are usually considerably more expensive than DJs. Don’t forget music for the ceremony.
Wedding photos capture and preserve important moments during your special day. When selecting a photographer or videographer, ask for examples of previous work to see if they can achieve your vision. Hire someone you are comfortable with and feel a connection with.
If you find the thought of wedding planning overwhelming, a wedding planner may be the solution. These professionals can develop a budget, select a venue, find vendors, vet contracts, plan design elements, coordinate vendor details, and manage logistics on your wedding day.
Your wedding day is the beginning of your life as a married couple. Careful planning will bring your vision to life and create memories you and your loved ones will treasure.
Sources for this article included: brides.com, theknot.com, and weddingwire.com.
By Angella Arndt
Great Escapes
Destination Weddings
Top Locations in the World
Congratulations! Are you getting married soon? Is one of your kids or grandkids? Because now is the perfect time to start planning a destination wedding that everyone can enjoy. We will talk about the top locations all over the world and narrow it down to a few recommendations that will help you plan that special and unforgettable day.
Technically, a “destination wedding” can be anywhere that’s outside of the couple’s area. Most are actually held stateside. According to TheKnot.com, even international destination weddings are often close to home. Last year, 44 percent of Americans getting married outside of the United States were in Mexico; 18 percent were in the Caribbean; and 20 percent were in Europe.
The first thing to consider is what type of destination you want. Are you looking for a place that is meaningful to you and your spouse-to-be, a fun and exciting vacation destination, an affordable spot for everyone, or something you and your guests will want to brag about?
If you’re looking for convenience at the beach, where everything is arranged for you, I recommend booking one of the adults-only, all-inclusive Caribbean Sandals resorts via your travel agent. Locations include luxury resorts on the beaches of St. Vincent, Curacao, Barbados, Jamaica, St. Lucia, Grenada, Bahamas, and Antigua. My top personal choices would be one with an over-the-water bungalow or a private plunge pool, which includes Sandals St. Vincent or Sandals Grande St. Lucian.
If you have a hard time choosing, go to their website (sandals.com/resorts), where you can choose which one is best for you by its features. Your travel agent can also share invaluable advice and feedback from personal experience and what they’ve learned from previous clients who have enjoyed (or not enjoyed) destination weddings. Everyone is different! You can choose a resort based on what you think you and your guests would most enjoy—nightlife, golf, diving, and more.
Then, there is Italy. Tuscany is a dream, specifically for villa weddings. Take a look at Villa Ardore if you can imagine your wedding at a 16th-century estate. This eight-bedroom luxury villa can sleep 16 to 18 guests. It has been restored and updated with modern comforts and amenities. This gorgeous villa is in Chianti, just 30 miles from the airport in Florence. It is situated within lush woodlands with views of rolling hills, vineyards, and medieval towers where you can watch the sun set over the Tuscan countryside. Can you picture it?
The amenities don’t stop there. Villa Ardore has its own spa on the property, chickens for fresh eggs in the morning, and a separate space where the bride and groom can sleep. The full-catering kitchen makes things easy for private chefs and caterers. If you have more guests than will fit in the villa, they can stay at a nearby hotel or villa that partners with Villa Ardore for additional accommodations.
Next on the list is a castle wedding in Austria. When discussing the topic of wedding destinations with my female family members, they just about forced me to mention Leopoldskron Castle, in Salzburg. After hearing about it and taking a look, I would have to agree that Hotel Schloss Leopoldskron would be a wonderful place to get married. It is privately owned and not open to the public. Guests, on the other hand, are free to roam the seven-hectare castle park, which makes you feel like you own the place. They do arrange tours, one of which is the Original Sound of Music tour. They ask, “Are you looking for absolute romance with a fairytale natural backdrop on a glittering lake, delicious food, and a lavish party into the night…? Then you’ve come to the right place at Schloss Leopoldskron!” Need I say more?
If you’d prefer to stay stateside for your destination wedding, you can still take advantage of lovely beaches in places like North Carolina’s Crystal Coast or the Key Largo Lighthouse in Florida. There are beautifully scenic areas in places as different as Arizona, the Colorado Rockies, or Nantucket. Don’t forget about California’s stunning Central Coast (Big Sur, Monterey, Pebble Beach) or a vineyard setting in Napa or Sonoma County.
For the most luxurious destination wedding, jet over to one of the many venues of the Amalfi Coast in Italy, to an elegant villa on the French Riviera, or to the perfect turquoise waters of Greece for your big day. Whatever the destination, remember to focus on what matters the most: your vows of marriage, and then a celebration for you and your loved ones.
Sources for this article included: schloss-leopolskron.com, sandals.com, and villaardore.com.
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Editor’s Note: Jackie has been a freelance writer since 2006. Her work has appeared in publications including Colorado Golf, Desert Golf, and Canadian Architecture & Design. Her blogs can be found at BoardandRide.com and the luxury and adventure travel website, ArtofTripping.com.
By Jackie Williams
The Green Thumb
The Orchid
Elusive, Graceful, Beautiful
Here’s a true confession from an experienced gardener…I love orchids but have always had a bit of trouble keeping them alive. Orchids are one of the oldest flowers in the world and also one of the most popular flowers in the United States. We have all seen these beauties in the grocery store or big box stores. I have always been captivated by their beauty without really learning much about them or, importantly, about how to care for them. This article is an attempt to remedy that, both for you readers and for myself.
Orchids are the largest family of flowering plants, and there are more than 25,000 species of orchids on the planet. Orchids (not mine, of course) have been known to live as long as 100 years and have some of the most spectacular blooms imaginable. Some species of orchids only bloom for a few hours and some bloom for months.
Would you believe that the vanilla bean comes from one type of orchid species? Yes, it is true! Would you also believe that orchids grow from the tiniest seeds…that a single seedpod can hold up to three million seeds? Also true! These tiny seeds cannot even be seen with the naked eye; you’d need a microscope to see them. Orchids come in an incredible variety of sizes. The smallest is the size of a dime, and the largest species can weigh several hundred pounds…seriously. Orchids also come in a wide range of colors, including purple, blue, yellow, green, red, orange, pink, and white. Blue is by far the rarest color.
As with many flowers, the color of an orchid has come to symbolize different feelings. The red orchid symbolizes love and affection but can also represent bravery and courage. The yellow orchid symbolizes a new beginning, and the pink orchid represents femininity and joy. No matter the color, orchids are symbols of beauty, love, thoughtfulness, charm, refinement, and fertility. That is why I love giving orchids as gifts, to convey special meanings suitable for the moment. While roses come in first as America’s favorite flower, orchids are certainly one of the top ten.
Most flowers are radially symmetrical, which means that if you cut the bloom in half in any direction, the two halves would look basically the same. Orchids, on the other hand, have bilateral symmetry (also known as zygomorphic). If you want to cut an orchid flower into two symmetrical halves, you have to cut it top to bottom.
Orchids actually have a landing platform for pollinators, a lower lip known as the labellum. In many cases, the lip is large and colorful in contrast to the rest of the flower. Pollinia (the waxy capsule of orchid seeds) is what pollinators carry away with them to pollinate other orchids. These tiny seeds need a special fungus called mycorrhiza to grow. Without this special type of fungus, orchids will never germinate. Orchid propagation was forever changed by this discovery because it allowed orchids to be grown by people other than the very rich. And because of that, orchids are now widely available.
Orchids can be found on every continent with the exception of Antarctica. According to people who know their orchids, you need three things to successfully grow orchids. First, you have to want to grow them. With that desire, you will take the time to learn what they need to thrive and what the growing requirements are. Second, you need to have the determination it takes to successfully grow orchids, and you have to be willing to put in the time, effort, and patience it takes to grow orchids. Third, you need to consider what the orchid needs as far as light, temperature, and humidity. Orchids do not like to be too wet or too dry, and they prefer indirect sunlight. Since they are basically tropical, they do not like to be too cool.
This leads me to believe that, with a little tenacity, I can grow orchids despite their finicky reputation. When I have had orchids in the past, I admit that I have not paid much attention to light, temperature, and humidity. I just put in an ice cube once a week and hoped for the best. Apparently, this approach makes orchid aficionados swoon in despair. I am willing to admit my mistake, however, and I would be willing to try orchids again.
No matter what the variety, orchids are beautiful and tough and graceful and extremely hard to resist. Orchids have no known allergens, so they won’t make you sneeze. I am going to my local nursery to purchase another orchid! With my renewed determination, I’m convinced of my impending success.
By Linda Sutherland
Cuddly Critters
Pet Care When You Can’t Be There
Boarding, Sitting, and More
If you consider your dog or cat to be a member of your family, you are lucky indeed. You know the many ways it enriches your life! You also know that you cannot be your pet’s constant companion. It’s normal to feel some trepidation when you have to leave your pet in someone else’s care, whether it’s for hours, days, or weeks at a time. Fortunately, there are professionals ready to care for your furry friends—the trick is to find the right pro for your needs. Let’s take a look at some types of short-term and long-term pet care.
Doggy day care can be a big relief for pet owners who work long hours and have energetic, social pets. It’s what it sounds like: a facility where you can drop off your dog during the day so they can play with other dogs. Expect proof of vaccination requirements (this protects employees and animals alike). Be sure to tour the facility in advance with your dog, keeping an eye out for cleanliness and happy pets.
Pet boarding is when your pet stays at a facility while you are away (on a business trip, on vacation, or even during medical treatment or recovery that leaves you temporarily unable to care for your pet). Boarding facilities generally provide space for your pet to be alone as well as opportunities to socialize. They keep pets on a regular schedule, which helps pets stay calm. Ask friends with pets for recommendations.
When you find a facility that suits you, arrange for a tour. Come to the tour prepared with questions. What is the ratio of caregivers to pets? Can caregivers administer medications or accommodate special diets? If your pet becomes ill or injured, what veterinary services are available? Some facilities offer extras like bathing and grooming…some provide so many grooming extras that they’re not exaggerating when they call themselves pet spas. If they offer special services, how much do they cost?
Find out what the facility provides and what you’ll need to bring along from home. Some facilities ask that pet owners bring favorite toys and treats from home; others may prefer to provide everything in-house. Check the size and condition of the sleeping quarters and find out how often pets are fed, exercised, and taken outside. Some facilities offer pet cams that will show you how your pet is doing any time of day or night.
Many boarding facilities offer day care, as well. This is convenient if your travel schedule is irregular. Your pet can enjoy the familiarity of the same facility no matter how long you’ll be gone. Find out about the specific drop-off and pick-up hours.
Some boarding and day care facilities for dogs also accept cats. There are also facilities that are cats-only, which might be a more relaxing vacation for your cat. In some places, cats from the same family can board together.
Pet sitters come in three types: those who visit your pet at your home, those who stay with your pet in your home, and those who take your pet to stay at their home. Your pet’s needs will determine the best fit.
A pet sitter who just visits your pet may be the most cost-efficient option. Dog visitors can come a few times a day to provide food and water and to take your dog outside for relief, exercise, and play. Cat visitors don’t need to come as often, since cats don’t go outside for relief. The frequency of visits determines the cost. If your pet has special needs, be sure to ask if the sitter can meet them.
A longer-term option is a pet sitter who moves into your home with your pet and keeps the routines you have established for feeding, exercise, and play time. This is a great option for introverted animals that wouldn’t enjoy boarding. It has the added benefit of house-sitting—that is, your home will be lived in while you’re gone. A pet sitter who takes your pet to their home may have other people’s pets with them at the same time. This option is best for pets who play well with others.
A fairly new service for pet owners is emerging: pet concierges. Just like a concierge at a hotel, a pet concierge has worked hard to compile a list of service providers. These providers have likely been interviewed and background-checked on your behalf, saving you a great deal of time.
Another recent development in pet care is liability insurance and bonding. Veterinarians have it; pet sitters are realizing they need it, too. It offers protection for all involved.
Sources for this article included: rover.com, thepetconcierge.com, and akc.org.
By Jackie Byers
Positive Perspective
Caretaker or Caregiver?
Giving Care Versus Taking It
Are you a caretaker or a caregiver…and what’s the difference? As moms, daughters, sisters, friends, and wives, we all face many situations in which we know our help is needed. Aging parents, sick children or grandchildren, a friend in crisis…we’ve all been there. How we manage these situations will determine how we emerge from the challenge.
“Relationships based on obligation lack dignity.” —Wayne Dyer
How do you feel about the person who needs your care? If you find yourself depressed, anxious, and overwhelmed, you most likely are behaving as a caretaker. So many of us jump right in when care is needed, many times without even being asked. We take charge because we know we are the only one who knows best. We worry. We care. We love. We ignore our own self-care because we believe it would be selfish to focus on ourselves.
“It is not the load that breaks you down. It’s the way you carry it.” —Lena Horne
I realized several months back that I was a caretaker, not a caregiver. My entire life, I had done what I thought was the right thing…always being there, controlling the entire situation, taking charge. I thrived in a crisis! Because of this, I would find myself exhausted, resentful, and just not very happy. Does that sound familiar? If so, what can we do? How do we change?
“The greatest discovery of all time is that a person can change his future by merely changing his attitude.” —Oprah Winfrey
We first must take a serious look at how we are acting, thinking, and feeling. Caretaking is best described as a control issue, whereas caregiving is an expression of kindness and love. Caretaking feels stressful, exhausting, and frustrating. Though caregiving can also be tiring, caregiving feels right; it feels like love. Pay attention: How do you feel?
“The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.” —Helen Keller
Changing from behaving as a caretaker to a caregiver is definitely possible. Ask yourself how you feel when you are with the person you are caring for. After an interaction, reflect on whether you respectfully waited to be asked to do something or you simply marched in and took charge. How was your vibe…dramatic or calm? Changing from a caretaker to a caregiver will give you an incredible sense of relief. It takes practice. It takes a decision, and it takes listening to your heart. But it is so worth it…for you and for the person you love.
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By Janet Van deWalle
